What is BDSM?
by swingersdirectory on Feb.19, 2011, under Alternative Activities
In order to know what BDSM are you will first need to know what it stands for. It is typically an overlapping type of abbreviation. This abbreviation is bondage and discipline, dominance and submission and then sadism and masochism. Knowing these terms will help you to get a good idea of what it is that this term means.
Tools
It is common that tools are used during BDSM. You will need to focus mainly on types of ropes and sex toys or other elaborate types of devices. A lot of chains and whips are used during these to allow for people to dominate and have control over their partner.
Themes
The themes that go along with BDSM are most often restriction, empowerment and submitting yourself completely to any sexual urges that you may have. There will usually be a person that is being dominated and a person that is doing the dominating. The one that is dominating will usually restrict the other and tease and play with them as they see fit.
Safety
It is always a good idea to have a safe word when one is taking part in BDSM. If things are getting too intense or if you are in too much pain then you should be able to say a word that will tell your partner that you need to take a breather for a minute or 2 or stop for the night completely. This is something that is absolutely necessary as BDSM can get dangerous if the dominator does not realize that they are being too rough.
Pros and Cons of Free swinging sites
by swingersdirectory on Jan.24, 2011, under UK Swingers Sites
You will find that there are a lot of different free swinging sites out there. There are plenty of reasons why you should consider them but there are also a few reasons why you may want to consider going with a site that you pay for. In the end it is up to you to what site that you feel will work best for your needs.
Pros
It can be difficult starting out on the swinger’s scene. You will want to make sure that you are able to find a lot of different sites to look at so that you can compare them to each other. This is the best way for you to find the best possible one. However, if you have to pay with each and every site that you look at this can end up being expensive and a hassle. Looking at sites just to get an idea of what they are about is something that is the best way to get questions answered about swinging. Many of these sites will also have more advanced features and content such as swinger tube/a> which is great if you want to look at people before you meet them.
Cons
A few of the cons of a free swinging site is basically that anybody can join in. If you are paying for a swinger’s site then you are going to be a lot more sure that you are with people that are serious about it. You will also be a lot less likely to run into somebody that is not going to be as trustworthy during a meet up. Unfortunately, there are people out there that cannot be trusted on swinger’s sites.
Watersports Advice – Dealing With Your Partners Request
by swingersdirectory on Dec.28, 2010, under Alternative Activities
Watersports is another term for a fetish that involves urination. Being asked, or asking a partner to participate in this can be difficult. There are a few things to keep in mind with this type of fetish.
Is It a Disorder?
It’s only deemed a disorder if it causes distress or legal implications for the people involved. Watersports can be incorporated in to normal bedroom activities without being detrimental.
Setting Boundaries
If your partner asks you to do this and you are simply not willing, then fine. Be clear, and be sure not to diminish them in the process. If they care about you they won’t make a big deal of it. However, if you are willing to try it, sit down and come up with some boundaries. If you want to keep things clean maybe you should only oblige in the shower with the water running. Maybe you are willing to participate, but don’t want to be urinated on yourself. These are all things that need to be brought up before participating.
Safety Concerns
While it’s unlikely to pass any health concerns, there are things to consider. Urine is mostly water. However, urinary tract infections and some STD’s can also be passed through it. It’s a good idea to make sure you have a clean bill of health before participating in this.
UK Local Swingers
by swingersdirectory on Dec.01, 2010, under UK Swingers Sites
Swinging Demographics
Swinging is very popular in the UK, swingers can be found all over the nation, some areas see more action than others and that is usually down to the population density of the area and nothing to do with demographics, people from all walks of life like to swing. The choice of area for you will come down to how many people in your area swing, if its busy then great, if not you amy have to look to surrounding areas, also you may not wish to swing on your own door step, this is not unusual, many swingers prefer to keep their private separate from their swinging life and will travel a long way for the right meet.
Find Local Swingers by Location
Here’s a some handy links of swingers ads for the most popular locations in the UK;
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Aberdeen Swingers > Angus Swingers > Ashfield Swingers
Aylesbury Swingers > Ayrshire Swingers
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Barnsley Swingers
Basildon Swingers > Basingstoke Swingers > Bath Swingers
Bedford Swingers > Belfast Swingers > Birmingham Swingers
Blackburn Swingers > Blackpool Swingers > Bolton Swingers
Bournemouth Swingers > Bradford Swingers > Braintree Swingers
Bridgend Swingers > Brighton Swingers > Bristol Swingers
Bromley Swingers > Broxtowe Swingers > Bury Swingers
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Caerphilly Swingers > Cambridge Swingers > Cambridgeshire Swingers
Canterbury Swingers > Cardiff Swingers > Carlisle Swingers
Carmarthenshire Swingers > Chelmsford Swingers > Cheltenham Swingers
Chester Swingers > Cleveland Swingers > Colchester Swingers
Coventry Swingers > Crewe Swingers > Croydon Swingers
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Darlington Swingers > Dartford Swingers > Derby Swingers
Devon Swingers > Doncaster Swingers > Dorchester Swingers
Dover Swingers > Dudley Swingers > Dumfries Swingers
Dunbartonshire Swingers > Dundee Swingers > Durham Swingers
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Eastleigh Swingers > Edinburgh Swingers Exeter Swingers
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Falkirk Swingers > Fife Swingers
Flintshire Swingers
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Galloway Swingers > Gateshead Swingers
Glamorgan Swingers > Glasgow Swingers > Gloucester Swingers
Guernsey Swingers > Guildford Swingers > Gwynedd Swingers
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Halifax Swingers > Halton Swingers > Hampshire Swingers
Harrogate Swingers > Harrow Swingers > Hemel Hempstead Swingers
Hereford Swingers > Hertfordshire Swingers > Highland Swingers
Horsham Swingers > Huddersfield Swingers > Hull Swingers
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Ilford Swingers > Inverness Swingers > Ipswich Swingers
Isle Of Man Swingers > Isle Of Wight Swingers
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Kilmarnock Swingers > Kings Lynn Swingers > Kingston-upon-hull Swingers
Kingston-upon-thames Swingers > Kinross Swingers
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Lanarkshire Swingers
Lancashire Swingers > Lancaster Swingers > Leeds Swingers
Leicester Swingers > Lincoln Swingers > Lincolnshire Swingers
Liverpool Swingers > Llandudno Swingers > London Swingers
Luton Swingers
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Macclesfield Swingers > Maidenhead Swingers
Maidstone Swingers > Manchester Swingers > Medway Swingers
Middlesbrough Swingers > Milton Keynes SwingersMotherwell Swingers
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New Forest Swingers > Newbury Swingers > Newcastle Swingers
Newport Swingers > Northampton Swingers > Norwich Swingers
Nottingham Swingers > Nuneaton Swingers >
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Oldham Swingers
Oxford Swingers > Oxfordshire Swingers
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Paisley Swingers
Pembrokeshire Swingers > Perth Swingers > Peterborough Swingers
Plymouth Swingers > Poole Swingers > Port Talbot Swingers
Portsmouth Swingers > Powys Swingers > Preston Swingers
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Reading Swingers > Redcar Swingers > Redhill Swingers
Renfrewshire Swingers > Rochdale Swingers > Rochester Swingers
Romford Swingers > Rotherham Swingers
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Salford Swingers
Salisbury Swingers > Sandwell Swingers > Scarborough Swingers
Sevenoaks Swingers > Sheffield Swingers > Shrewsbury Swingers
Slough Swingers > Solihull Swingers > Somerset Swingers
Southampton Swingers > Southend-on-sea Swingers > St Albans Swingers
St Helens Swingers > Stafford Swingers > Stevenage Swingers
Stockport Swingers > Stoke-on-trent Swingers > Stroud Swingers
Suffolk Swingers > Sunderland Swingers > Sussex Swingers
Sutton Swingers > Swansea Swingers > Swindon Swingers
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Tameside Swingers > Taunton Swingers > Telford Swingers
Thanet Swingers > Thurrock Swingers > Tonbridge Swingers
Torbay Swingers > Torquay Swingers > Trafford Swingers
Truro Swingers > Twickenham Swingers > Tyneside Swingers
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Wakefield Swingers > Walsall Swingers
Warrington Swingers > Warwick Swingers > Watford Swingers
West Lothian Swingers > Wigan Swingers > Wiltshire Swingers
Windsor Swingers > Wirral Swingers > Wokingham Swingers
Wolverhampton Swingers > Worcester Swingers > Wrexham Swingers
Wychavon Swingers > Wycombe Swingers
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Oral Sex Advice – Making it Great
by swingersdirectory on Nov.07, 2010, under General
Oral sex is an important part of any sexual experience. When time is taken to do this, the sexual experience can be enhanced greatly. There are several things you can do to make it great.
Be Clean
Taking a bath or shower together before sex can be very sexy. This also allows you both to make sure you are scrubbed and clean before you go down there. This creates plenty of sexual tension, and will make both parties more comfortable in the long run.
Keep it Groomed
Take a few minutes to shave or trim up down there a few times a week. No one likes having to contend with lots of hair when they are trying to perform orally. This will eliminate any self consciousness as well, making it more comfortable for both people.
Be Gentle
Being too aggressive with oral sex can turn a pleasant experience in to a nightmare. Be open and listen to your partner, and always start with light pressure and work your way up. This will also enhance the sexual experience.
Flavoured Lube
Flavoured lube is a great way to make the experience great for all involved. You can find flavored lubricants that are safe for genital use at any adult toy store, or you can order them online. Just be sure you are getting lubes that are free of sugar (a cause of yeast infections in women), and are compatible with condoms.
Top Tips for Swinging
by swingersdirectory on Oct.14, 2010, under General
Swinging is a lifestyle that is becoming more popular. While once thought to be devious, many people now see the benefit it can have on a relationship. It can keep things fresh and new and enhance the sex life of a couple. There are a few things you can do to make swinging fun and enjoyable for everyone.
Deal With Jealousy
If you start to feel jealousy rising, you need to confront this head on. Letting it fester and build will destroy the relationship. Since swingers have a code that No should always be respected, you can back out at any time with no consequences. Talk to your partner about your jealousy and work through it together.
Spend Time With Other Couples
Swinging can be great fun, especially if you spend some time getting to know other couples. If you have joined a club, spend some time in the lounge with others. You’ll find that you have more in common than just sex, and this can intensify the sex itself.
Go Online
Going online can open a whole new world to you as far as swinging goes. Sit down with your partner and write a great ad, and place it on a few swingers websites. This is a good way to get to understand the lifestyle while allowing you to meet others. Just the act of writing the profile together can be sexy fun. Keep your profiles short, and make sure you have good photos posted. You don’t have to post face photos if you are concerned about privacy.
Swinging Clubs
by swingersdirectory on Oct.07, 2010, under Swinging Scene
Swinging clubs are a great place for fellow swingers to get together and meet up with each other. These clubs are great for those that are new to the scene or those that are looking to broaden their horizons. It can be difficult to try to find swingers clubs in your area at first. However, as soon as you are able to get into the scene, you will find that a whole new world will open up to you.
Internet
You will find that a lot of swingers clubs will do most of their promoting online. This is the best way for them to be able to get their name out there without having to worry about promoting their club out in public. Because swinging is something that is sometimes frowned upon by the general public, it is a good way for people that are interested to find information about these specific types of clubs.
UK Swingers Clubs
USA Swingers Clubs
Australia Swingers Clubs
Clubs
While a lot of the swingers meetings take place at private homes there are also clubs where they can all hook up. This is for people that do not wish to have swingers meetings happen inside of their homes or for people that do not know any fellow swingers. Many people feel that these clubs are a lot safer than going to the home of a stranger to partake in sexual activities. These clubs will allow different people the opportunity to meet fellow swingers and play with new people that share the same interest as them.